NickiTALKS: Black women dating White men…

I’ve always said my husband was going to be a white man, not because I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with a black man. Or because I wanted cute babies ( which I hate when woman say they want a white man so there kids can be beautiful with good hair, VERY IGNORANT COMMENT!) It’s because growing up I’ve seen my mom and grandmother go through abuse in marriage with a black man, so from seven years old I’ve seen abuse and it lasted for years, so I grew this feeling about marriage first, then the feeling of my husband being black. For the longest I believe untiI I was like 20 I said I would never get married, that has recently changed, but it was because what I witnessed my mom go through. Deep down I did feel like he would be white if I ever changed my mind. I know white men can be abusive as well, but I also always been attracted to different races, white men in particular; despite only having black boyfriends. I never said one was better than the other, but as of now in my life the men I see in college which are black dudes, I find no interest in them. Most of them act the same (in how they approach women), and I just feel like I want something different. I will always support my black people in general, and I won’t sway away and exclude black men out of my life in hopes to marry a white man. If I marry a black man then hey it’s fine, I’m not excluding anyone out. It’s just I always pictured my husband being white. This guy that liked me for years, told me he can see me dating a white man, I asked him why he say that and he mentioned, he just can see me happier with one. I don’t know but my brother mentioned the same exact thing. I will be happy with whomever makes me happy, black, white, Cuban etc. I think interracial couples are beautiful, especially when all of this craziest is going on in the world today. It’s good to see us all stick together. I never had or will have a issue with white woman dating black men either, or if a black men chooses to date only white woman. It’s not my place to tell him what he likes, never know he probably went through some tragic moment in life with black women and made his mind up on what he wanted. It becomes a issue for me when the black men start comparing all black women. Saying were all the same, naggers, attitude problems etc. But me personally I don’t have a issue with others dating outside their race. Many black young adults will think that white man don’t like black girls, I did once believe that as well. But that is TOTALLY wrong. They really embrace your black beauty and this is from ME experiencing it in the workplace. There as afraid as we are to approach them, thinking you won’t like a white dude lol. What I am getting at is don’t for once let your skin color be something that shames you! Go after what you want, it’s doesn’t particularly have to be a white man either. I once was shocked before in class recently, when this white guy intervene on me and my brothers conversation, just to ask me my name and to tell me that I am beautiful. I was lost for words, only because he came out of nowhere. So don’t think for one moment that they don’t like you. This goes for any race trying to talk to another race. I do LOVE educated black men, and I give credit when it’s due, but at my age it’s hard to find one that isn’t like the previous in regards to what his interests are. However, I am not looking for a relationship at this moment in my life either. But I just go by what I experience. All in all love one another, no matter race or color.

DISCLAIMER: I AM IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM EXCLUDING BLACK MEN OUT MY LIFE OR ADVISING ANYONE TO DATE ONLY WHITE MEN, DATE WHOMEVER YOU WISH. JUST LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND DON’T BE AFRAID OF YOUR BLACK BEAUTY.

xoxo

-Nicole

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